Love language… it is such a
common topic among couples. In fact, wives (mostly) compare their love language
and share how they have redamancy (or unrequited) with their love language(s).
Let me back track (in case you don’t know this love language that im talking
about), this is popularized by Gary Chapman (who wrote the book of the same
title)… According to him, there are Five Languages of Love… (these are word of
affirmation, touch, gift, service, and time. You can click here to know more of these love languages.
Anyway… most couples do not speak
the same love language. Truth is, it’s quite a challenge for a couple who have
different LL (love language) to be affectionate harmoniously. That is why it is
important that you know the love language/s of your spouse… otherwise… you
might be doing and communicating things in love but to your betterhalf you
aren’t. This might also be the reason why somehow s/he whines that you do not love her/him. In case
you don’t know your love LL, there’s an online test (you can google it). You can also encourage
your spouse to take the said test and compare your results (note that one can
have more than one love language, and it is possible also that you have them
all…and one LL can be dominant over the other).
Now let me share my story
concerning this matter. My husband and I had been into that struggle… I thought
he is not loving and caring… and likewise he felt that I wasn’t too. Then, we
found out that it’s not that we are not loved and treasured by our spouse…it’s
just that we don’t decode the action as love because we do not express it in a
way that we understands it as love… Like, for me… I feel loved when you hold my
hand, you tell me you love me… you appreciate my efforts, how I look or how I
accomplished things… My husband on the other hand… my touching him, telling him
I love or miss him are not feeding his love bank…because to him, he feels love
when I serve him, give him gifts or massage…or at times feed him when he’s
already exhausted even to eat because he’s dead tired from work…
So yeah… it pays to speak the LL
of your spouse… Marriage is truly and purely a taste of heaven on earth when you communicate love to your betterhalf
in ways s/he knows.
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