Ways To Sustain Marriage

I wonder how many people are in the wagon of this same concern. Couples who have been married for over 10 years are starting to wonder where did the romance go. As the honeymoon stage fades away, the reality of married life starts to sink in and throw you a lot of punches, either left hook or right uppercut comes unexpectedly… sometimes you have to be ready with the knife hand neck strike, the  sidekicks, or whatever full-body contact blows that life may throw at you…

Each day, things are getting heavier not just with the bills that are delivered in your doorstep every month… but concerns blow up to tuition fees, house rents, and even hospital bills when kids get sick… these things, though we know is part and parcel of building a family, get us preoccupied that we spouses tend to forget to nurture the relationship… in the end we don’t land up as partners anymore but opponents…
I’ve been married for 13 years and somehow I get derelict with my duties as a wife because I am consumed with family matters which I think are more important than date night, movie night, dine out, and other sweet-nothing moments… I compartmentalized things according to priorities but that is a one-sided angle of a mom, not as a wife.
One time… a wife came to me and poured out her sentiments towards her husband… after that long hours of listening, I prayed for her… then shared with her some thoughts that came to my head as I prayed… In as much as it encouraged her…I believed that those things I had told her ministered to me as well…
This is what I told her…
God made you as the betterhalf first before He made you a mom. The priority must be in that order. God is pleased that you are a caring and loving mom…but He called you to be a wife first… you also need to fulfill that.
Then I share some practices that my husband and I have…
We do have a night out… we plan things on what we do for that night… mostly we watch movies… we also walk around the subdivision late afternoon or after dinner. We mostly talk about plans… and dreams.
During Sundays, we have an afternoon siesta…which we seldom end up sleeping…we just talk and whisper nonsense but sweet words, wrapping our arms. That’s quite cheezy but it does help us become more intimate with each other.
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And of course never forget to “have a go at it”… It is important. Don’t just do it for the sake of doing… be passionate about it… be creative… surprise your spouse… In fact…during special occasions like birthdays or anniversary…it would be nice to check in a hotel. Making love is what set us apart from others who are not married. It is a gift from God… It should be shared by married couples as often as they can because there is union in there. I think you know what I mean. I think that is the best way to keep romance burning and keep the relationship healthy.